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After a much loved pet has died it is perfectly natural to feel intense grief and sorrow, and a deep sense of loss.

Grief affects people in different ways such as anger, guilt and depression. But in all cases you do have to come to terms with the reality of your loss and learn to adjust to a new life without your pet. You may be surprised at just how long the healing process can take. But all of this is perfectly normal and you must understand that.

You will have to realise that some people will not be able to understand your grief at all. These people have probably never had a truly loving relationship with a pet. If your despair seems to be mounting you must talk to someone who understands. Consider for example taking professional help to assist in understanding your sorrow.

Remember that the lifespan of most pets is considerably shorter than it is for us. Death is an intrinsic part of the cycle of life for all living things. Without death there is no life. Try to think of the good times that you and your pet had together and in time your memories of the pleasure you shared will bring you to the realisation that your pet was indeed worthy of your grief.

You are not alone in your grief. Many, many people are devestated at the loss of their companion.

When the time is right, and only you will know, do consider sharing your life with another pet. It will never replace your lost pet but you will almost certainly love it just as much for itself, for you are a very special person, able to give as well as receive unconditional love. What greater, or more fitting tribute could there be to a special departed friend?

Rainbow Bridge - A tiny story, a wish and hopefully some small comfort

PS There is a really good newsgroup that you may like to consider joining alt.support.grief.pet-loss. It is available through deja.com